I told my family I run ADISC
by, 03-Jan-2012 at 04:20 (1490 Views)
I've told all my immediate family about ADISC, and even showed one of them the site.
Here's part of one of those conversations:
Me: You know I run websites, right?
Dad: Yes, I've known you've been involved in charity work for awhile
Well, what you may not know is that a site I run, 'ADISC', is designed for people who want (or need) to wear diapers.
I started it while I was a teen, because the lives of such people are often much more difficult than, for example, the lives of gay people are. Gay people have an increasing amount of acceptance from the general public. On the other hand, people who want/need diapers are pretty much unknown, and can face very negative reactions when they do come out.
When I was a teen, friends of mine became depressed because they had nobody to talk to about what was going on in their lives. Some became very seriously depressed. The suicide rate for gay teens is huge compared to straight teens, and I think it is even worse with AB/DLs.
By running ADISC, I believe I am helping young AB/DLs fight isolation, fight depression, and ultimately, I believe I am saving lives.
Young AB/DLs are desparate for someone to understand them. They will seek out understanding and acceptance from people on the internet, because that's the only place they feel safe doing so. They fear the reactions of their family, and can't trust their friends. I had a good friend who turned to the unsafe corners of the internet to know that they were not alone, and almost got raped in a hotel room as a result. He was about 13 at the time. This happened because there was no safe space for him to communicate with other young AB/DLs - so he turned to risky places out of simple desperation.
By running ADISC, I believe I am helping young AB/DLs form safe friendships, friendships which will enable them to learn about and accept who they are, without putting themselves at risk. In short, I believe I am protecting vulnerable young people from being exploited.
I want you to know about this side of me, because I've felt that there's a perception in my family that I'm just a big kid - an adult that spends most of their time playing computer games and messing around on the internet. Sure, I play computer games. Sure, I do sometimes surf around the internet with no particular purpose in mind. Thing is, though, I do these things as a break from my responsibilities.
Much of the time is devoted to what is effectively charity work - attempting to help protect people, often vulnerable people, from isolation, depression, and serious safety risks.
All this is difficult to talk about, but I feel like, if we're to have a real relationship, you need to know that I spend a lot of my time trying to help people who seem to really, really need it.
You may have thought I do the odd programming project, and spend much of my time playing games.
That's not how I see it.
I see it as saving teens and young adults from depression and, to put it bluntly, serious safety risks, on a regular basis.
I see myself as trying to provide for others what my friends and I wished we had, growing up. To provide what we suffered for not having.
Dad: OK. That makes sense.
Me: I know this may not have been something you expected to hear from me. You can see, though, why this is important to me? And why I feel like you don't really know or understand me as a person without knowing this stuff?
Dad: Yes. I can understand. I'm glad you told me. *hugs*