Open minded - Close mindedness
by, 22-Sep-2011 at 05:07 (931 Views)
Has anyone ever noticed that those people that claim to be open minded are the most close minded, intolerant people you will ever meet?
I admit I am close minded :P I am very set in my beliefs and it would take a great deal to move from my position on a a great many topics. However, I do not force my ideology down people's throats, nor do I state other people are wrong in their beliefs when I disagree vehemently on many points those people espouse. Yet if I dare say even one iota of a hint of my belief I am attacked as ignorant, intolerant, and close minded.
While I might be close minded I am certainly not intolerant. I tolerate the gruesome spelling and homonym errors on forums even though I grown when I see sentences like
Their is nothing wrong with me
I here what you are saying
I like that to
Its like a balloon
If you see nothing wrong with those sentences . But I tolerate anything that is not a direct attack against me. Say what you will. Who am I to judge. Not to say I don't think bullies should be told to lay off.
I am also not ignorant. I believe very heavily in the seemingly lost art of rhetoric (how to win an argument), but that is sort of a misnomer. It is more the art of learning understanding.
To win an argument you both need to have a common base, otherwise you have not won anything except a shouting(typing match). This common base is something you both agree on as valid and true, something rock solid that you can return to. For example, if I am an athiest and you are a Christian, using the Bible as a base is not a good idea. This first step is crucial.
Second, present your case with proofs linking directly back to the common base (in other words truths & facts that cannot be refuted or argued except in the interpretation of the common base)
Third, present counter points to your opponents points linking back to the common base (in other words, prove your opponent wrong with his own textbook)
Fourth, (and this is most important) reach a resolution upon which you both agree. The point of an argument should not be to prove you are right and he/she is wrong, but to correct an erroneous understanding. If no resolution can be met it means the person refuses to look at facts presented and stubbornly wants to say the same thing.
I have found again and again that it is the "Supposedly" open minded person that has no ability to argue effectively and more often than not denigrates to name calling and other juvenile behavior....
bugs me, lol