How Does Friendship On The Internet Work?
by, 18-Aug-2011 at 18:10 (410 Views)
That of course is a rhetorical question. I know that friendship on the internet works no differently than friendship in real life, but how is one to know if the friendship they believe they have is seen the same by the other party? Allow me to elaborate. I'm going to use MrMcAwesome as the other party in this scenario simply because he's likely to read this and if he posts with something serious it may help me with my point.
So I have never met MrMcAwesome. We know nothing about one another other than what we've read in bios or blogs. We have posts and comments that allow for a laid back exchange of thoughts and words so we get to know one another's personality a bit better. Now, this is the part where the question comes in.
Do those individual things add up to a friendship? I would be inclined to say yes. I find his posts and comments to be funny and intelligent, and I get glimmers of similarity when I compare his sense of humor to mine. He may think differently though, and then we come back to the question again.
I'd be willing to bet if I sent friend requests to every member on this forum I would end up with Mods, overly nice people that have no idea who I am or what I'm like but accepted because they are nice, and maybe a handful of people that actually are happy to accept because they were too shy to offer friendship first in my friend box.
As it stands right now I have three friends. MrMcAwesome, who we discussed already. Icey, who is exceedingly nice and who I had some interaction with on another forum. And BooBooBear109, who I'm sure added me because she felt I was nice when I welcomed her to the forum. I am grateful to have those three people as friends, and I hope I don't end up on the cutting room floor if a friend purge occurs.
So, in your estimation, how does friendship work on the internet? Do you make the first move when you find someone interesting, or do go the sneaky route and comment on their blog or quote their posts so you get their attention and hope they make the offer? Is it creepy to do what I just said? Am I still making sense with this post or has my lack of sleep caused my brain to go all noodly?
Comment my friends...or acquaintances...or total strangers. Let me know what you think.
P.S. If anyone reads this and thinks that I'm pandering for more friends you are wrong, this is just something that I was wondering is all. If you want to be my friend, then send a self addressed, stamped envelope to:
P.O. Box LV426
Streets Ahead, TX, 82717718
The envelope should also contain money, but I guess that goes without saying.