giantguy99

That's a good story. I'm glad you couldhelp out that it came to a good ending.

Yeah I just love it when I see someone as sweet and innocent as a child not come to a bad end. I have been calling myself a caretaker for a while now even though I have never helped anyone change their diaper before until recently. I'm feeling all warm and fuzzy right now. :hug::huglove::cheekkiss::patpat::wub:

Yay. I'm always nervous about situations like that being misinterpreted, given that I look a grandpa ... or Aqualung, depending on your perspective.

Well don't be nervous. I'm not blind to the reality on how controversial I can get but the fact of the matter is I understand that the road to hell is paved with good intentions far better then most people. Add in the fact that most people have no chance to know me very well unless they meet me in person mixed with a inability to [U]present[/U] facts well and that leads to a recipe of controversy Maxx. I really am a sweet gentle giant who can handle himself quite well. What most parents forget about in order to [U]not[/U] have their children wander off like that is how to discipline the child. You see you don't scold or spank the kid the child you simply remind the child at every opportunity how scared and unhappy they where at that moment to avoid having problems again by giving them the perfect excuse to [U]not[/U] wander off. What most parents don't think about is if one where to spank or scold the child and the child wanders off again the child will remember what happened last time and be even more scared and afraid to come back to the parents making them lost and at risk to whatever even longer. :smile:

I'm just nervous about being mistaken for a pervert, what with all the stranger danger paranoia.

There's kids, and there's kids. They're all different, and sometmes parenting doesn't make a whit of difference. Some will go their own way. We had a leash with a chest harness for Maxx Junior when we took him out in public. He'd bolt as soon as we looked away otherwise. #2 grandson was the same way.

Well don't let your fear control you. It's ok to be afraid in fact lack of fear is a sign of a serious mental disorder actually. I know my way around police and in fact I can talk my way out of dangerous situations simply because I can prove on the spot usually that I'm not a pervert. Think about it. I immediately brought that kid [I]to[/I] a uniformed police officer right? Well kind of a "pervert" with a kid that [I]goes to[/I] the cops? The answer is simple they don't so it was obvious even in my body language that I am sweet altruistic gentle good Samaritan who happens to be the best kind of short term defense against real perverts. All you have to do is not [U]show[/U] any fear in situations like that and that confidence will leave a positive impression on most cops as long as they are not some trigger happy person who does not belong there. Even if they are a bad cop they tend to have a soft spot for kids anyways and I can confidently prove I mean no harm to anyone except those willing to shed my blood in self defense situations. Heck most of the cops in my area know me actually to a limited extent. I wave hello to them all the time and they actually appreciate that because I don't cause trouble.


As for your grandson has he ever run away? If yes did he get scared and started crying? If the answer to both of those questions was a yes (I don't need to know as it's none of my business) then just remind them of that feeling every time you even so much as [U]think[/U] they are thinking about running. You see Maxx kids need [U]discipline[/U] what they don't need is [U]punishment[/U] as it has proven less then effective and results in animosity and rebellion towards the parent or guardian in any given situation with less then desirable results.

Originally Posted by accepted

Well don't let your fear control you.

No, of course I don't. When I've seen kids potentially lost or in trouble I've done something about it. I'm just careful about HOW.

As for your grandson has he ever run away? If yes did he get scared and started crying?

Yes... and no. That was the issue for him and Maxx Junior as well. Both were/are fearless.