My story/situation, and advice plea - Page 2

Incomplete Dude · 03-09-2008

I'd say tell her, but fully expect to be finding another girlfriend. It doesn't look good.

dogboy · 03-09-2008

Isn't this a great site, with fantastic member. I'm always impressed with someone like Maverick who at 15 has the maturity of a 30 year old. I think Ayanna has given all the info you need. I've been an AB/DL for many, many years. In the beginning, I too went through all the gotta do it, do it, do it, and then get rid of everything in a fit of guilt. To a large degree, it's who we are. Then I got married and did not tell my wife. I lived without probably for the first 7 years of our marriage. Then we moved and went to new jobs, where I had Fridays off to clean house, and for many years I had a great time without anyone knowing. Then I changed jobs and worked 6 days a week. To make a long story short, my wife found out by an internet order, and questioned me. She was very understanding, and even helps facilitate when my mother in law comes to visit. But we have a very close relationship. Because she is diabetic, I have saved her life hundreds of times. Now I help her dialyse at home. We are a team made with love.

From what you say, it does not sound like your girl friend would be too accepting. I would go very slow on the first announcement, with "have you ever just wanted to go back to like, oh I don't know, ...when you were very young, and things were so much more simpler...etc... If she says, "Ooo, that's gross", then warning Will Robinson, and back off. Then you have to decide, do I want to live with her and no diapers? Do I want to live a life going behind her back (not recommended)? Or do I want to live a life alone, maybe for a long time, and cuddle up to my diapers? Only you know her, and only you know your own desires.

tombo · 04-09-2008

Thanks guys, I'm just trying to come to grips with how to say it, and I think ayana is probably right on the money with what I should do. Hopefully it goes smoothly...

pottypantz · 06-09-2008

Tell her. Tell her now so that if she wants to break up you can pick up and move on more quickly. Find someone else, if that happens, that will be more understanding. Maybe someone in 'the scene' who also likes them? Lots of accepting ladies out there who would find a diapered man adorable.

Repressing this to keep a girlfriend/spouse will only lead to problems.

I had to have this conversation with my girlfriend because I figured if we were going to get married, she'd find out eventually. 10 years later we're still together and occasionally she joins in on the diaper fun.

Being married for 9 years I can tell you that there are reasons to stay single and reasons not to be. If my wife wanted a divorce it would be a rocky few months to get through the process, but in the end - FREEDOM! I favor commitment, but if it doesn't favor me, I can move on. Simple as that. Try not to get too caught up in your identity depending upon another person so much that you compromise your true self.

Lots of potential partners out there even if you're not a handsome person. Just have to believe in yourself enough that the confidence beams from you. If you lose her because of this small part of your life, find someone else and be thankful for the good times you two spent together. Maybe if she likes you enough she can see past this or gain a new understanding of non-vanilla sexuality/sensuality.

Take this advice with a grain of salt and remember all the folks on here that have been through repressing the urges and binge-purge cycles. Lots of those same experiences for a variety of people.

ade · 07-09-2008

i suppose that telling her would be okay if you want her to be a part of your ab/dl aspect, but i always think that a person should keep a little piece of their self for their self.

wetatnight · 07-09-2008

I agree that you should tell her
if she can't or won't accept it then she's not the woman for you.
just be honest about why you like diapers and how they amke you feel and tell here that she wouldn't have to change you or anything if she didn't want to be involved in your fetish.
who know's she may come around and think it's cute and may want to play mommy some times.
so, you never know.
but if she accepts it or not tell her.

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03-09-2008	#11 (permalink)
Incomplete Dude VIPIVIPIV Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brampton, Ontario, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 613 Threads: 34 Gallery Uploads: 15 Wiki Edits: 2 Blog Entries: 2	I'd say tell her, but fully expect to be finding another girlfriend. It doesn't look good.

03-09-2008	#12 (permalink)
dogboy VIP Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Virginia, USA Posts: 914 Threads: 3	Isn't this a great site, with fantastic member. I'm always impressed with someone like Maverick who at 15 has the maturity of a 30 year old. I think Ayanna has given all the info you need. I've been an AB/DL for many, many years. In the beginning, I too went through all the gotta do it, do it, do it, and then get rid of everything in a fit of guilt. To a large degree, it's who we are. Then I got married and did not tell my wife. I lived without probably for the first 7 years of our marriage. Then we moved and went to new jobs, where I had Fridays off to clean house, and for many years I had a great time without anyone knowing. Then I changed jobs and worked 6 days a week. To make a long story short, my wife found out by an internet order, and questioned me. She was very understanding, and even helps facilitate when my mother in law comes to visit. But we have a very close relationship. Because she is diabetic, I have saved her life hundreds of times. Now I help her dialyse at home. We are a team made with love. From what you say, it does not sound like your girl friend would be too accepting. I would go very slow on the first announcement, with "have you ever just wanted to go back to like, oh I don't know, ...when you were very young, and things were so much more simpler...etc... If she says, "Ooo, that's gross", then warning Will Robinson, and back off. Then you have to decide, do I want to live with her and no diapers? Do I want to live a life going behind her back (not recommended)? Or do I want to live a life alone, maybe for a long time, and cuddle up to my diapers? Only you know her, and only you know your own desires.

04-09-2008	#13 (permalink)
tombo Regular Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Massachutes Posts: 29 Threads: 2 Reputation: 0	Thanks guys, I'm just trying to come to grips with how to say it, and I think ayana is probably right on the money with what I should do. Hopefully it goes smoothly...

06-09-2008	#14 (permalink)
pottypantz Lurker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: USA Age: 36 Posts: 20 Threads: 1 Reputation: 2	Tell her. Tell her now so that if she wants to break up you can pick up and move on more quickly. Find someone else, if that happens, that will be more understanding. Maybe someone in 'the scene' who also likes them? Lots of accepting ladies out there who would find a diapered man adorable. Repressing this to keep a girlfriend/spouse will only lead to problems. I had to have this conversation with my girlfriend because I figured if we were going to get married, she'd find out eventually. 10 years later we're still together and occasionally she joins in on the diaper fun. Being married for 9 years I can tell you that there are reasons to stay single and reasons not to be. If my wife wanted a divorce it would be a rocky few months to get through the process, but in the end - FREEDOM! I favor commitment, but if it doesn't favor me, I can move on. Simple as that. Try not to get too caught up in your identity depending upon another person so much that you compromise your true self. Lots of potential partners out there even if you're not a handsome person. Just have to believe in yourself enough that the confidence beams from you. If you lose her because of this small part of your life, find someone else and be thankful for the good times you two spent together. Maybe if she likes you enough she can see past this or gain a new understanding of non-vanilla sexuality/sensuality. Take this advice with a grain of salt and remember all the folks on here that have been through repressing the urges and binge-purge cycles. Lots of those same experiences for a variety of people.

07-09-2008	#15 (permalink)
ade Regular Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: GB Posts: 170 Threads: 2 Gallery Uploads: 2 Blog Entries: 1 Reputation: 8	i suppose that telling her would be okay if you want her to be a part of your ab/dl aspect, but i always think that a person should keep a little piece of their self for their self.

07-09-2008	#16 (permalink)
wetatnight Regular Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: USA Posts: 129 Threads: 7 Reputation: 0	I agree that you should tell her if she can't or won't accept it then she's not the woman for you. just be honest about why you like diapers and how they amke you feel and tell here that she wouldn't have to change you or anything if she didn't want to be involved in your fetish. who know's she may come around and think it's cute and may want to play mommy some times. so, you never know. but if she accepts it or not tell her.