On every forum and chat I been to I keep seeing the same stuff over an over. "Will this make me incontinent", "What can I do to be incontinent", "I want to be incon.."
The replies from those who are really incon are always the same - that "You wish for it now but you wouldn't ever really want to be.." I have had many mixed feelings when reading this stuff from laughing at how silly people sound to getting down right mad at the people for the lack of common sense in the way they say things. So I thought about it more and tried to understand the mentality deeper. I took it as a research project in a way and I think I understand a little more but now I have some direct questions to those who "want to be incon".
1) Do you really think being incon will make you any more or less an AB?
2) Do you really have the daily life routine to acomodate being incon?
...A) Can you really afford it? Diapers are expensive, cloth diapers require lots of extra time to care for. If you decide to "change your mind" are you prepared to realize that you may not have that choice anymore? Possibly EVER?!
...B) Do you understand that when you expel, you have zero control of the amount that comes out and that means if you are somewhere you might flood and leak that you can't just 'slow or stop it' so you don't leak?
...C) Incons have had to make ajustments in their lives that makes it much more difficult and almost daily planning from going anywhere to even visiting anyone. There's not the "choice" anymore to say "Ok, I'll just be 'normal' while doing this or that - are you truely prepared?
...D) It's very hard for those who visit your home or are around you including family to not find out eventually. Is there anyone you can't avoid or not have over anymore or family that you have a problem finding out accidently?
...E) Have you thought how you will handle certain embarassments like, "Going to a friends house who has nice furniter like tan suede chairs and couch - and bringing in a dining room chair for you to sit on in front of everyone because you leaked on his chair before?" Or, walking thru a public place with an obvious wet patch around your waist, legs or streak down your leg. If you want to be an AB so badly you want to pee like one, can you mentally handle that kind of embarassment?
3) If you do become incon, do you understand that later on you may "grow out of it" or meet someone who you really like that would have a hard time accepting you wear diapers?
...A) I have read/seen in sooo many places where people are looking for a relationship with someone who can accept just being around it. Do you already have someone who is accepting? What are the odds you will really find someone if you haven't by now that will accept your having to wear diapers.
...B) I won't even go into then being "willing to change them"
I can understand an AB who isn't incon wanting the experience to enhance their feeling like a baby, but when playtime is over - being incontinent isn't. Is the reality separated from the fantasy when you're asking to become incon?
4) Bedwetting: You should LOVE doing laundry, making the bed and have several changes of sheets. You should also be able to sleep good on a plastic sheet that makes noise with every single movement. Answer questions if someone visits and sits on your bed why it has plastic under the fited sheet - not to mention if they see the stains too! If you don't have plastic, then you should be able to buy a new mattress now and then because no matter how much fabreeze or baking soda or whatever you use will not fully cover up the smell if the mattress gets soaked. And, it will always release odor in the air. You might get used to it and not notice but other people will. Waking up in a cold puddle is fun if you are 'playing' now an then but it gets old... and tireing when you do it regularly. The 'tireing' gets to be annoying on days your in a hurry too. Are you ready to have this problem when you are sleeping with a rare potential mate who may not mind "playing" with you as an AB but doesn't want your pee soaking them as they sleep? Diapers tend to leak at night from various places depending on the persons body build. It don't matter where you leak from tho because the wet is gunna still be there. Is this something you think you can live with as well? Constantly?
For anyone asking if wearing a diaper alone will make you incon, the best you can hope for is a very weak bladder that will make you feel the need to expel just before doing so, much like urge incontinence. But, I can pretty well tell you that any attempt to 'control the flow' still subconsciously reinforces that your body "HAS" control so your 'incon' status will not likely change at all no matter how long you wear. The mind is very powerful and unless you fully train your mind to allow yourself to 'fully release' without holding, clenching, fear of leaking or any control at all then it's seriously doutful that you will ever have a bladder that weak to make you really incon.
I would really like to hear some answers to these and not just fantasy answers but honest ones since, well... you 'honestly' want to live this way. It's a fact, not a choice anymore after all once you are.