I think this thread has one of the biggest mixes of great advice mixed with ignorant comments on all of adisc or the internet. I think AnalogRTO and tbchris have really put it into perspective the best. Most of us here go back and forth with highs and lows on the issue and come here to vent, share, or find advice. Still I am of the opinion that you can't really understand until you've been there. You guys are right. I don't understand what it's like and I never will. I'm sure AnalogRTO doesn't fully understand why his son has the condition he does but he is right in that you shouldn't push someone down that path without really thinking about it.
I think this whole ab/dl thing for me has softened my heart about all these other conditions like gay/bi/trans. I still am of the belief that nobody is born with any of these conditions, including ab/dl but that we might be more susceptible to them and our brains get hardwired, much the same way was commented above from the time we are a baby on up in our lives. I do believe that if I really wanted to I could get rid of my thoughts and feelings about diapers but the feat would be enormous and I honestly do not know that I would want to. So in that regard I understand how powerful these conditions are and how powerful the mind is. Sorry if others feel a different way I don't mean to offend or cause debate I just thought I'd share my thoughts on the distinction between the physical condition of being incontinent and the choice.
I am thinking the best advice I've heard on here to give to those who want to be incontinent is to give it a trial period. Go 24/7 until you get freaking sick of it, just go when the urge hits, don't try to stop it, carry all of your supplies with you and really live the life these guys have told us is the reality of it. Beyond that though you will never be able to get people to stop fantasizing and talking about it here on the internet.