Telling her...

**diaperedteenager** · 27-03-2008

Well i have been thinking about this for sometime now, but i just can't make up my mind. I was thinking of telling my best friend about my diaper fetish. First off, she is a girl and we have been friends for about 14 years now. We tell eachother everything and well i feel dirty keeping this from her. What do you guys think i should do? I am starting to think that it would be a bad idea, but i'm not sure. Can you guys list some Pro's aand Con's about this decision of mabey telling her?

Pojo · 27-03-2008

Well does she seem like an understanding person? What would you gain from telling her? I told a friend of mine that's a girl...She is fine with it...And she drived me to the store to get some even...But that doesn't mean it will happen for you

**diaperedteenager** · 27-03-2008

I think i'll gain more trust in her and she will do like wise.

Pojo · 27-03-2008

Well go for it if you want

Darkfinn · 27-03-2008

As long as she is open minded... I don't see a problem confiding in someone you've known for that long... though others may tell you not to.

~~Monkey~~ · 27-03-2008

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Originally Posted by diaperedteenager

I think i'll gain more trust in her and she will do like wise.

Why would confessing that you have a diaper fetish gain you trust? I can see it would be beneficial if you were in a long-term relationship with her but as friends? Do you expect all your friends to tell you about there intimate fetishes? Unless it's harming you in some way & you desperately need someone close to confine in to feel acceptance I don't see the point, but this is just my opinion!

Pojo · 27-03-2008

Well when I told my one friend, we have become better friends since then

**Charlie F** · 27-03-2008

My advice:
Think about this for a month. A whole month.

If after a month of thought you are very sure that it's a good idea, then maybe go for it? I mean telling someone out of the great urge that some people get (including myself...) is always a bad idea, because it tends to be a short lived irrational thing!
But if after a month you want to tell her, and you can give yourself some good rational reasons for telling her, then it might be worth doing.
The settings are good: she's a girl (which helps) and you have a long term friendship.
I think you should test the water first, find out how she reacts to certain ideas... mention fetishes to her etc...

Good luck if you do it, whatever if you don't!

Jack26 · 28-03-2008

My advice is similar the Charlie's in that it's a way of making sure you're not being irrational.

Justify to yourself exactly why you want to tell her. If you can explain your reasoning for telling her in a coherent and logical way, there's probably a rational thought behind it. If not, you just have an irrational desire to get your secret out.

But you should probably Combine this with Charlie's idea and wait for a month as well. That way, you can be really sure.

And make sure you know how she feels about fetishes and things just generally different from what's "normal". If she seems to have quite conservative views, you might not what to tell her.

**diaperedteenager** · 28-03-2008

so what you're all saying is that i should do some recon on this first. This has pondered me for about 2 mabey 3 weeks now. I have mentioned fetishes once or twice to her, she said that everyone has their own thing and shouldn't be judge on who they are by that, that definatly gave me some re-assurence on the subject. I asked her if she had any and she responded with i, like most humman beings have atleast one and just smiled at me. This confused me ALOT, IDK if that smile means she knows about mine or what.

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diaperedteenager Newbie Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: That Place, USA Age: 16 Posts: 172 Threads: 45 Blog Entries: 13 Reputation: -1	Telling her... Well i have been thinking about this for sometime now, but i just can't make up my mind. I was thinking of telling my best friend about my diaper fetish. First off, she is a girl and we have been friends for about 14 years now. We tell eachother everything and well i feel dirty keeping this from her. What do you guys think i should do? I am starting to think that it would be a bad idea, but i'm not sure. Can you guys list some Pro's aand Con's about this decision of mabey telling her?

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Pojo Changed AIM for privacy Historical Donor Staff Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Cow-Land, VA Age: 18 Posts: 4,381 Threads: 73 Gallery Uploads: 6 Wiki Edits: 110 Blog Entries: 20	Well does she seem like an understanding person? What would you gain from telling her? I told a friend of mine that's a girl...She is fine with it...And she drived me to the store to get some even...But that doesn't mean it will happen for you

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diaperedteenager Newbie Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: That Place, USA Age: 16 Posts: 172 Threads: 45 Blog Entries: 13 Reputation: -1	I think i'll gain more trust in her and she will do like wise.

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Pojo Changed AIM for privacy Historical Donor Staff Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Cow-Land, VA Age: 18 Posts: 4,381 Threads: 73 Gallery Uploads: 6 Wiki Edits: 110 Blog Entries: 20	Well go for it if you want

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Darkfinn Lurker Historical Donor Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Charlotte, NC Age: 24 Posts: 2,720 Threads: 68 Gallery Uploads: 16 Wiki Edits: 4 Blog Entries: 17	As long as she is open minded... I don't see a problem confiding in someone you've known for that long... though others may tell you not to.

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Pojo Changed AIM for privacy Historical Donor Staff Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Cow-Land, VA Age: 18 Posts: 4,381 Threads: 73 Gallery Uploads: 6 Wiki Edits: 110 Blog Entries: 20	Well when I told my one friend, we have become better friends since then

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Charlie F Indecisive Historical Donor Senior Staff Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England, UK Age: 18 Posts: 1,860 Threads: 29 Gallery Uploads: 11 Wiki Edits: 45 Blog Entries: 58	My advice: Think about this for a month. A whole month. If after a month of thought you are very sure that it's a good idea, then maybe go for it? I mean telling someone out of the great urge that some people get (including myself...) is always a bad idea, because it tends to be a short lived irrational thing! But if after a month you want to tell her, and you can give yourself some good rational reasons for telling her, then it might be worth doing. The settings are good: she's a girl (which helps) and you have a long term friendship. I think you should test the water first, find out how she reacts to certain ideas... mention fetishes to her etc... Good luck if you do it, whatever if you don't!

28-03-2008	#9 (permalink)
Jack26 It's 2009 already? Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England Age: 17 Posts: 423 Threads: 14 Gallery Uploads: 5 Wiki Edits: 1 Blog Entries: 35	My advice is similar the Charlie's in that it's a way of making sure you're not being irrational. Justify to yourself exactly why you want to tell her. If you can explain your reasoning for telling her in a coherent and logical way, there's probably a rational thought behind it. If not, you just have an irrational desire to get your secret out. But you should probably Combine this with Charlie's idea and wait for a month as well. That way, you can be really sure. And make sure you know how she feels about fetishes and things just generally different from what's "normal". If she seems to have quite conservative views, you might not what to tell her.

28-03-2008	#10 (permalink)
diaperedteenager Newbie Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: That Place, USA Age: 16 Posts: 172 Threads: 45 Blog Entries: 13 Reputation: -1	so what you're all saying is that i should do some recon on this first. This has pondered me for about 2 mabey 3 weeks now. I have mentioned fetishes once or twice to her, she said that everyone has their own thing and shouldn't be judge on who they are by that, that definatly gave me some re-assurence on the subject. I asked her if she had any and she responded with i, like most humman beings have atleast one and just smiled at me. This confused me ALOT, IDK if that smile means she knows about mine or what.