Mine Gf is 15 years apart what matters is the happyness you can have togather.
Ok a lot of little's are afraid to meet or talk on phone you see some of us have hidden the little part of our selves or the love of diapers . Form parent's friends and others. So most are shy to meet up It may not be you think of a bed wetter they dont want any one to know. Its ont thing to do this alone but to meet some one else it can be too much. Good luck.:-)
hello; i can not discuss any advice that was given to your wife by myself or other members of ADISC. that is up to your wife to discuss with you (in private) should she wish to. and i can not give you any advice as it doesn't seem to me that you have asked for any. all i can say is that under ADISC-rules, there is only one account per person. and that person can not share said account with anyone else. therefor it follows that if i as an ADISC member ask for advice; then what people who respond to my request should think of first and foremost is what would be in my best interest.... not my mothers, or fathers, or siblings, or even my spouses interest. their interests, if considered at all, are only done so if and where they run tangential or parallel to my own. that said; when i offer advice. i very often research a persons ADISC-history in order that i may understand the "world-view" as best i can. and then base said advice on that. i must add that ADISC is a support community, and people often come here for that support. i certainly did. and just as i felt the need to be free to share my personal situation with the folks here so that i might find that support. i also felt the need to share much of what i talked about on ADISC with my spouse so that She was "in the loop" as it were. however, i don't let the fear of what might get said here stop me from being open and honest here. nor does my Spouse monitor my postings out of fear. the words trust, respect and personal-space, come to mind right off the bat.... i do hope that you and your wife can work something out. good luck....
Originally Posted by egor I can only say one thing. My grandparents were 15 yrs age difference and it worked for them. IF it is meant to be it will be. I met my wife on E-harmony and there was one big issue about religion. When I realized that I was marrying the love of my life and not my mothers dream It happened. That was the best move of MY LIFE. IF she loves you and you love her, IT WILL HAPPEN. That is why your spouse is a great gift from GOD! Good luck Thank you for the comment, I will keep it in mind. I see a lot of compatibility between us and it's replenished my supply of hope, but as they say, it takes 2 to tango. I've been in prayer about it and even though she is not a Christian (yet) the thought that comes back is that it can still be evenly yoked. All that remains is an affirmation from her that she wants this as well. Congratulations on finding your soul mate in this lifetime
It's nice to meet you Sarah. I think your responses to Lily's interests are fair. Your view of diapers and babyhood are normal for most adults. The fact that you love her enough to try and understand, and even to take part to an extent, shows how much you love her. Sadly, lots of people walk out or shut down on ABs when they discover who we are. So it's wonderful that you try to understand. I think that most ABs have a very deep need for acceptance of who they are. We aren't naive; it's obvious what most people think of diapers. And most of us have tried to quit being this way for that very reason. We fear judgement and rejection from others. But these desires almost never go away. So rejection anxiety is huge for us. (This also should show just how much you mean to Lily!) I would imagine, then, that when a partner rejects a part of one's AB expression, it feels like a deep personal rejection, even though that's not what you intend. Communities like this are a blessing because they let us be real about who we are. But at the same time, the advice from them will be very one-sided. We all want full, unconditional acceptance, even if it's not realistic. And I never thought about it before, but it must feel like you're being painted as there bad guy when your wife complains about how things are. Remember that none of us knows either of you in real life (most likely), and so we don't understand the whole situation. Our advice will be one-sided; there are valid points, but they don't tell the whole story, and I think we realize that when we stop and think about it. As Egor and Trevor both said, it's up to you guys to compromise and find an answer that will work for both of you. You need to be sensitive to Lily's needs, which aren't likely to change. And she needs to be sensitive to yours, which are also unlikely to change. Be open to moving outside your comfort zone a bit, but above all be really clear and honest with each other. Your love for each other is the important thing. Finally, I'm sorry if anything I've said has upset you (I've only talked with Lily a bit, but you never know). Please understand that no one on here is trying to hurt or offend you, but we're trying to help an AB sister. We know what it's like in her position. But I promise to try and be more sensitive to the feelings of those affected by our AB activities. Thank you for your post and for making your feelings known
I understand how you might feel like this is unfair but I don't think it's too reasonable to expect that an ABDL support site won't be supportive on this topic. We're pretty good about trying to give people the advice they might need more than the advice they want, so although I haven't done an accounting of all the advice dispensed, I would bet that based on the information presented, it's fairly reasonable. This is not a court of law, so if Lily isn't giving information in a fair manner, it hardly matters what we say. You guys are the ones who have to live together. Just as an example (because it's the only thread of hers I responded to), take this thread: https://www.adisc.org/forum/mature-t...3-too-old.html. My response was a joke but I felt like I could do that because the question had been answered in a solid way. If she's giving us the straight story, I'd say you're not being reasonable in this instance as a supportive partner. Again, there are all kinds of individual aspects to her or the situation that may invalidate my opinion but just in general, we don't seek this or ask for it. It's just there at a very deep level (mine dates back to some of my very earliest memories at age 3-4). It didn't stop by 30, nor 40, and I fully expect it to be with me in some measure as I breathe my last. Whether you like pacifiers or not isn't all that relevant since you're not the one who uses it. I get that this can be a lot to put up with. Maybe you're not really cut out to do that. I hope that you can be. If you're going to try to be, then do it for real. That doesn't mean you suck up absolutely everything but it does mean understanding that these desires are fundamental and not going anywhere and they may not always come out in ways you like. Compromise.
I can only say one thing. My grandparents were 15 yrs age difference and it worked for them. IF it is meant to be it will be. I met my wife on E-harmony and there was one big issue about religion. When I realized that I was marrying the love of my life and not my mothers dream It happened. That was the best move of MY LIFE. IF she loves you and you love her, IT WILL HAPPEN. That is why your spouse is a great gift from GOD! Good luck
Hello Thank you for sharing. You are absolutely correct in that the other side of the story is needed to have a complete understanding of the issue posted in a thread or blog. At this moment I don not remember any threads that have been referenced. However, I do think that if I did respond or would my advice to that would be the same as I will say now. I came out to my wife and she is understanding, but we are still working on things. SO it is important to realize that tolerance and patients should not be confused. The most important thing with this issue and all issues in a marriage is respectful communication. Ask for a time to meet and talk about the issue. This makes the subject known and gives the partner time to calm down and be respectful them selves. Remember to use I statements and actively listen. So again thank you for sharing and I hope that both of you can come to an understanding and that boundaries are not a line in the sand but and understanding of mutual respect. I would understand about the bed wetting issue and again an understanding needs to be reached.
Originally Posted by Frogsy Those are the worst, I know. Even though the doctors are usually very professional, I'm usually fully humiliated and in pain. But it'll be over with. It's Tuesday now. Are you doing okay? I got off somewhat easy because this time the doctor just used her fingers instead of the large metal thing too. Though I did pee a bit during the exam, lol. Today my stomach bothered me though and I half-jokingly told my mom ''I think they broke my insides!"
Those are the worst, I know. Even though the doctors are usually very professional, I'm usually fully humiliated and in pain. But it'll be over with. It's Tuesday now. Are you doing okay?
I have gotten terrified of meeting regular dates from the internet. Like not even related to ABDL stuff dates, I mean. I even got terrified meeting a friend, a non-romantic friend! (But then again, I'm really super shy.) Maybe that person had a bit of a meltdown over the reality of the situation, especially because you both know about each other's little sides. But anyway, don't let one person's problems become your own problems. Don't give up!
I will be posting a blog with pictures when I have completed it. And thanks for the encouraging an nice words ^_^
And this person may have just been too scared, at the reality of this happening...'till it's time to go...everything seems like it may be great...a bit of 'devil's advocate' -Marka
Adding my agreement as well. It hurts when that happens. But there are lots of kind people in the world, too...don't be discouraged!
I agree about what Trevor said, he wasn't worth your time and effort. Screw him, be "thankful" for what he did... since in the end he would've done worse... And keep on trying, not everyone is like that.
That's pretty disheartening! I guess you just have to look at it in terms of time and hassle saved. For whatever reason, that wasn't a person worth your time and energy. I've never been stood up while waiting, although I've had a number of disappointments before that point. Keep at it. It's worth the effort
I love surprises, please share when your ready.
I'd love to see! Will you post another blog update when you're done?
Some will fight, try to get their right against what is wrong, but they go nowhere fast and it tiers them out (I have seen this from very close eg. family). While this can lead to a victory for what is right in the long run, one must ask himself the question: is it worth all the effort. But then the choice between what is right and what is easy also comes along. Others will just go with the flow (again, family). They observe the movements and motives behind the force and try to learn from it. They see it not as much as a setback, but rather an opportunity to try something new. Personally, I don't have the life experience to say how I will handle such a thing. I just hope I make the right decisions and eventually can get into a position where I have the knowledge, skills and resources to live a life I am comfortable with.
Oateson, you have spoken the truth. But how will YOU cope with those impersonal forces?
