Embarrassment - Page 2

Mako · 31-08-2008

For me only time I like being embarrassed is when I'm feeling naughty. But when I just want to be cuddled, or silly and playful, it would simply just counter the desired feelings and setting.

**Charlie F** · 31-08-2008

I always call it humiliation rather than embarrassment. Just quickly quoting from wikipedia:
"Embarrassment is an emotional state experienced upon having a socially or professionally unacceptable act or condition witnessed by or revealed to others."
"Humiliation (also called stultification) is the abasement of pride; mortification. The state of being humbled or reduced to lowliness or submission. It is thus the process of being made humble. It can be brought about through bullying, intimidation, physical or mental mistreatment or trickery and embarrassment."

To me, humiliation feels a lot different to embarrassment, and certainly isn't 'embarrassment to a larger degree' as some people seem to say it is.
I tend to think that humiliation involves a humiliator...

Tripping over one's shoelaces in public, or running for a bus and missing it, or failing to catch a ball from a gentle throw (etc etc...) are all embarrassing, but from none of those would I gain any sort of (even a very remote) sexual thrill. In fact it seems absurd to think of that. Whereas having someone do something to me to intentionally bring me down would probably be very sexually thrilling.

To answer your question, humiliation is the major part of my AB fantasies. I'd go as far as saying that I'm not so much an AB/DL etc. as I am a person who is into humiliation, and diapers and baby stuff just so happens to be one of the most humiliating things I can think of. (This is also the root of my being a sissy).

How does it play into my fantasies? Well they are all geared towards it basically...

Martin · 01-09-2008

As long as nobody is around that doesn't know about what's going on I'm not embarrassed / I don't feel humiliated. As soon as that isn't the case I am but it doesn't feel good. Not really part of my fantasies either, guess I'm a minority when it comes to that.

Millenniumfalsehood · 01-09-2008

Embarrassment and humiliation don't have much to do with my fantasies, as they usually revolve around diaper-wearing as being normal and me finding other people who wear.

teddy564339 · 01-09-2008

What I like about all of the responses here is that there are a wide range of them. Some people get nothing out of being embarrassed, and for others it's a very big thing.

Something I think that's also interesting...I don't think it's been brought up in detail in this thread, but I think in general embarrassment/humiliation seems to be sexually pleasing among *B/DL's. I'm sure there are people who get non-sexual pleasure out of embarrassment, and also people who get sexual pleasure out of non embarrassing *B/DL stuff. But...I wouldn't be surprised if it was a trend that people who like *B/DLism non-sexually also tend to not like embarrassment, and people with sexual pleasures tend to like embarrassment.

Of course, the next huge question would be why some of us like embarrassment and others don't...but that's a complicated question that I doubt anyone has a true answer for.

Maverick · 02-09-2008

When I regress, I don't really want to be humiliated. I want to be loved and given affection. I also want to be treated like a baby. But I don't actually want to be humiliated; that doesn't sound fun.

I used to have a big interest in physical age regression, though. I still do, but it's not as major as it was many months ago. That's pretty humiliating; a grown man being regressed to babyhood. So, maybe I do like some humiliation.

Although, I'd probably enjoy it if I had a female friend who said, "Do you need to go in your crib?" or "Should we get you a onesie?" like teddy564339's friends said. I'd blush a little, but I'd find it enjoyable.

*Mr. Marley* · 02-09-2008

I'm not an AB/TB/Infantilist. But one of my fantasies is that i'm very small, and people treats me like a toddler/child even though I don't wont do, and they know how old I really is. Its rather a humiliation-fantasy involving being treated as a baby against my own will, than a AB-fantasy. And the one time I did meet another dl for diaper play, I enjoyed that he made me wear diapers and a body, even though I never felt like a baby.

But I know I would never enjoy my fantasies if they became real. Humiliation as a part of diaper/baby/sex-play is one thing, being humiliated in "real" life is another. And I really hate that.

Incomplete Dude · 03-09-2008

I don't get embarrassed if I'm with abdl carers or friends doing abdl stuff. Nude beaches are no problem also. However, the problem for me in when abdl stuff happens in a non-abdl setting. Like when my brother carries my bear around the house in front of my family to tease me. Cause then, the abdl stuff is crossing boundaries it shouldn't, and that makes me mad. To be sure, I do enjoy doing abdl stuff in public, on the rare occasion I intend to do it, because I get some pleasure in freaking others out! hehe

DarkSunDS · 08-09-2008

Embarrassment makes me cum. ;3

I prefer to keep things short, so no huge paragraph for me.

teddy564339 · 08-09-2008

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Originally Posted by DarkSunDS

Embarrassment makes me cum. ;3

I prefer to keep things short, so no huge paragraph for me.

That actually sums up a plethora of thoughts very succinctly.

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31-08-2008	#11 (permalink)
Mako Regular Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Ontario, Canada Age: 20 Posts: 152 Threads: 1 Reputation: 8	For me only time I like being embarrassed is when I'm feeling naughty. But when I just want to be cuddled, or silly and playful, it would simply just counter the desired feelings and setting.

31-08-2008	#12 (permalink)
Charlie F Indecisive Historical Donor Senior Staff Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England, UK Age: 18 Posts: 1,592 Threads: 23 Gallery Uploads: 11 Wiki Edits: 43 Blog Entries: 50	I always call it humiliation rather than embarrassment. Just quickly quoting from wikipedia: "Embarrassment is an emotional state experienced upon having a socially or professionally unacceptable act or condition witnessed by or revealed to others." "Humiliation (also called stultification) is the abasement of pride; mortification. The state of being humbled or reduced to lowliness or submission. It is thus the process of being made humble. It can be brought about through bullying, intimidation, physical or mental mistreatment or trickery and embarrassment." To me, humiliation feels a lot different to embarrassment, and certainly isn't 'embarrassment to a larger degree' as some people seem to say it is. I tend to think that humiliation involves a humiliator... Tripping over one's shoelaces in public, or running for a bus and missing it, or failing to catch a ball from a gentle throw (etc etc...) are all embarrassing, but from none of those would I gain any sort of (even a very remote) sexual thrill. In fact it seems absurd to think of that. Whereas having someone do something to me to intentionally bring me down would probably be very sexually thrilling. To answer your question, humiliation is the major part of my AB fantasies. I'd go as far as saying that I'm not so much an AB/DL etc. as I am a person who is into humiliation, and diapers and baby stuff just so happens to be one of the most humiliating things I can think of. (This is also the root of my being a sissy). How does it play into my fantasies? Well they are all geared towards it basically...

01-09-2008	#13 (permalink)
Martin What's up doc? Staff Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: The Netherlands Age: 17 Posts: 1,926 Threads: 34 Gallery Uploads: 127 Wiki Edits: 86 Blog Entries: 23	As long as nobody is around that doesn't know about what's going on I'm not embarrassed / I don't feel humiliated. As soon as that isn't the case I am but it doesn't feel good. Not really part of my fantasies either, guess I'm a minority when it comes to that.

01-09-2008	#14 (permalink)
Millenniumfalsehood Regular Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Arkansas City, Kansas, USA Age: 20 Posts: 156 Threads: 12 Reputation: 7	Embarrassment and humiliation don't have much to do with my fantasies, as they usually revolve around diaper-wearing as being normal and me finding other people who wear.

01-09-2008	#15 (permalink)
teddy564339 Teddy bears for life! Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: North Carolina, USA Posts: 135 Threads: 10	What I like about all of the responses here is that there are a wide range of them. Some people get nothing out of being embarrassed, and for others it's a very big thing. Something I think that's also interesting...I don't think it's been brought up in detail in this thread, but I think in general embarrassment/humiliation seems to be sexually pleasing among B/DL's. I'm sure there are people who get non-sexual pleasure out of embarrassment, and also people who get sexual pleasure out of non embarrassing B/DL stuff. But...I wouldn't be surprised if it was a trend that people who like *B/DLism non-sexually also tend to not like embarrassment, and people with sexual pleasures tend to like embarrassment. Of course, the next huge question would be why some of us like embarrassment and others don't...but that's a complicated question that I doubt anyone has a true answer for.

02-09-2008	#16 (permalink)
Maverick The Little Nonconformist Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: New Jersey, USA Age: 15 Posts: 1,179 Threads: 25 Gallery Uploads: 4 Wiki Edits: 2 Blog Entries: 1	When I regress, I don't really want to be humiliated. I want to be loved and given affection. I also want to be treated like a baby. But I don't actually want to be humiliated; that doesn't sound fun. I used to have a big interest in physical age regression, though. I still do, but it's not as major as it was many months ago. That's pretty humiliating; a grown man being regressed to babyhood. So, maybe I do like some humiliation. Although, I'd probably enjoy it if I had a female friend who said, "Do you need to go in your crib?" or "Should we get you a onesie?" like teddy564339's friends said. I'd blush a little, but I'd find it enjoyable.

02-09-2008	#17 (permalink)
Mr. Marley Lurker Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Norway Posts: 56 Threads: 8 Reputation: 4	I'm not an AB/TB/Infantilist. But one of my fantasies is that i'm very small, and people treats me like a toddler/child even though I don't wont do, and they know how old I really is. Its rather a humiliation-fantasy involving being treated as a baby against my own will, than a AB-fantasy. And the one time I did meet another dl for diaper play, I enjoyed that he made me wear diapers and a body, even though I never felt like a baby. But I know I would never enjoy my fantasies if they became real. Humiliation as a part of diaper/baby/sex-play is one thing, being humiliated in "real" life is another. And I really hate that.

03-09-2008	#18 (permalink)
Incomplete Dude VIPIVIPIV Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brampton, Ontario, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 577 Threads: 33 Gallery Uploads: 15 Wiki Edits: 2 Blog Entries: 2	I don't get embarrassed if I'm with abdl carers or friends doing abdl stuff. Nude beaches are no problem also. However, the problem for me in when abdl stuff happens in a non-abdl setting. Like when my brother carries my bear around the house in front of my family to tease me. Cause then, the abdl stuff is crossing boundaries it shouldn't, and that makes me mad. To be sure, I do enjoy doing abdl stuff in public, on the rare occasion I intend to do it, because I get some pleasure in freaking others out! hehe

08-09-2008	#19 (permalink)
DarkSunDS Regular Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 1,762 Threads: 48 Wiki Edits: 60 Blog Entries: 1	Embarrassment makes me cum. ;3 I prefer to keep things short, so no huge paragraph for me.