If your relationship is really serious, there really isn't a way around telling her eventually, and the sooner the better I think. She might be hurt if you tell her when the relationship gets even more serious, because she would probably feel like you didn't trust her. And, if marriage is a possibility, then you definitely want to tell her before you get to this point.
Here's why I would recommend telling her. If she really loves you, she will accept this part of you, no matter how repulsed she is by it initially. I know that sounds a little cheesy, but it is true! If she can't accept this part of you, then the relationship probably wasn't as close as you initially thought.
I agree with Maverick regarding the fact that you will need to be confident with yourself before you tell anyone. Don't expect anyone to be able to accept you if you can't accept yourself. Once you reach this point, you should probably just explain it to her in person. I think that showing a website, like understandinginfantilism.org could be beneficial also in helping explain it.
This won't be easy for you or your girlfriend, but just remember that love can overcome all things. Best of luck to you.
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