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Originally Posted by Target_0
so, what are your opinions?
first mines:
1) I don't think a more comfortable diaper can push a kid to say "I love this feeling, very comfortable, toilet away!".
2) I can't believe a child refuse potty training over 3 years old. If it is real, Maybe are parents that do it in a wrong way.
3) Bigger diapers or Pull-ups are useful for bed wetting, since in most cases bed wetting is a physical factor, and I don't think they prolong bed wetting.
I think is better for a bed wetter waking up in a wet diaper rather than in a wet bed.
4) about wear diapers for laziness during night.... no way.
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Honestly, I don't remember that much about the potty training phase our two kids went through. Though from my experience, I will say a child will potty train when they're ready to in their mind and not before. At that point, they start making the connection between the urge to go, and getting on the potty. Plus, as you mentioned, there's the "copy-cat" factor where a child wants to be like an adult. Every child develops mentally at a different rate, so the time of successful potty training differs from child to child. For both our children it was in the 2-ish age range. Many times a child will have developed a somewhat regular schedule for eliminating by that time. We tried to sit them briefly on the pot around the time they normally would mess or wet their diaper. If nothing happened, we'd wait awhile longer and sit them down again. After some weeks they got the hang of it and would let us know when they had to use it.
As for anything psychologists, pediatricians, or any other child development 'experts' said or presently say, we pretty much ignore them. They change their tune with each generation like the swing of a pendulum. We just did what we felt would work, at the time we thought was right, and it worked!
Target_0, as for your opinions on what you read, I pretty much agree with you. Just to comment on your first opinion, I also don't feel the comfort factor of diapers used will affect the child in not wanting to potty train. To use another baby item in comparison, I know for a fact children can be picky about the comfort of a stroller. Some even refuse to ride in certain ones at a surprisingly young age because it doesn't feel right to them. They will ride if a more comfortable stroller is used. But, no matter how comfortable the ride, at a certain point in their toddler/pre-school years these kids want to start walking. In their minds they're ready to start making the transition. Too, the imitating of adults probably again comes partly into play, just like in using the potty. It's part of their maturing mentally that makes them ready to progress to the next phase of their life.
One thing parents should never do is hold their children back from making changes with bathroom habits, or anything else, when they indicate they're ready, just for their own convenience because of being too lazy to put forth the effort to help their kids make the necessary changes. To me, that shows a selfish lack of love for the child on their part.
~Pramrider