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Originally Posted by Millenniumfalsehood
Adults' attitudes towards kid's self-esteem being so important that it overrides the need for self-discipline is revolting to me. Can't people see that a kid with no self-control will end up in trouble or be the cause of it? I don't care what Dr. Spock says: kids need to know when they're doing wrong. I remember what I was feeling when I was a kid. I felt the need to push my boundaries. When I was told 'no' I didn't feel belittled. I just figured out that I'm not supposed to do that(I got mad because I couldn't do what I wanted, but that's beside the point).
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As a parent, I totally agree with your comments. Of course, discipline doesn't mean a child has to be spanked over every little thing. Discipline should match the wrong that was done and administered because you love your child and want them to turn out as a responsible young adult. A serious wrong usually requires some physical discipline to emphasize the seriousness of the act. Lesser infractions can need only a word or even just a look for the child to get the point. Discipline should never be given in anger because your sense of reason will be off. Better to wait until you've calmed down if very upset over what was done so as to be able to administer the proper punishment and not go overboard. One gripe I have with parents is when they don't let their 'Yes mean Yes and No mean No' which only causes confusion on the part of the child in what they really should or shouldn't do. I've even heard of an extreme case where failure on the part of the parents in that regard led to their child's accidental death.
Just my personal opinion, but with computer generated graphics becoming more realistic I think it is confusing the minds of the users to some extent so that make believe and reality are harder for the mind to distinguish. Especially so if they're heavily into such games. Engaging in computer game violence in a very realistic setting could help desensitize the user's mind to a degree, making it easier to commit similar acts in real life, whether by accident or not. Again, not a psychologist, just offering an opinion. I'm sure there's other factors involved when a person commits a violent act such as this.
~Pramrider