So, whether you are straight/gay/bi I'm sure a lot of us all have a vision about what we want in our partner or future spouse.
Unmistakeably Gay. I'm not camp, but females do not hold that kind of attraction for me.
Do you want them a guy, girl?
A guy.
Do they have to be in the same age range, older, younger?
I'm not as concerned about this as I once was. I'd currently say between 18 and 30, although it depends on the person. There would have to be no-determinable generation gap, a relationship where neither person knew what they were talking about would not be fun. I would also go down to 16, that is the age of consent here, but there are possible complications.
Do they have to look a certain way?
Just be attractive to me. I know that's vague, but I judge people individually. I could not see myself ever being with somebody fatter than myself, it just doesn't work psychologically. I don't consider someone being deaf or in a wheelchair to affect their looks though, i'm not quite that superficial.
Do they have to have a certain job, or amount of money?
No. But someone who is content to never get a job and live off the state is not someone I could get along with, it doesn't fit with my work ethic. Someone who is of independent means is not the same. However, I would expect anyone who I met, if we moved in together, to make equal contributions to me, not more or less.
Do they have to be abdl? If so, mommy/daddy, baby, or playmate?
Nope, but realistically I would tell them (dishonesty isn't good) and they'd have to accept it, even if they weren't inclined to participate. If they were into it, and other stuff i'm interested in (furry stuff, for example) that would be better still.
Do they have to be good in bed, or does that matter at all?
I'm not overtly sexual, i'm not somebody who has to have sex every hour of every day to feel happy. Someone who mostly enjoys hugging, kissing, relaxing together would be good for me. However, I do enjoy having sex, so the ability to do so would be a must.
Do they have to live near you or are you willing to travel?
I am willing to travel, providing I can get there. For medical reasons (Epilepsy) I can't drive, so if their location didn't have a bus stop (or preferably, a rail station) it would be difficult. I don't think it would be fair to rely on them to pick me up all the time.
Anything else?
They would have to understand me. I'm not perfect, but i'm not a complete waste of time either. I am somewhat complicated though, being slightly paranoid and a little quiet and shy (don't let my forum posts pursuade you otherwise, me IRL is different) which they'd have to be OK with.
MarkFox
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